Motherhood Will Make Me a Saint

Brick House in the City posted a story on their social media accounts last week that rocked me. It told of how a young St. Therese would call out “Mama!” as she went down each step and would wait for her mother’s reply before going down another step. Each step she would call out, and each step her mother would call tenderly, “Yes, my child.” And so it went as she went down the stairs.

Shoot, guys, I would’ve lost it! Can you imagine the patience it would take to call out “Yes, my child” on Every. Single. Step.  I get so upset when Nora won’t go up a full set of stairs without any recognition. We’re going through a phase where she wants to be carried everywhere- especially up the stairs. So this particular story called directly to my heart. I try to convince my sweet toddler to come up the steps by herself with patience, kindness, and most of the time, I just carry her if she’s really insisting.  But, other times, I yell, or leave her crying because I have to set down the million other things I am carrying up the stairs (including her actually can’t go up the stairs by himself little brother).  In these moments, I know that God is doing His sanctifying work in me.

What Would St. Zelie Do?

I wonder if St. Zelie had this internal struggle with little Therese.  She knew it was best to be patient and encourage her little girl, but maybe sometimes she just wanted to yell “Therese, come on! Just come down the stairs already!” But her response with patience and love is probably part of the reason St. Zelie came to be recognized as a saint- she had the patience of a saint, as they say.  There are other stories of how little St. Therese tested her mother’s patience. I wonder if, really, having her little girl being as testing as she was led St. Zelie to her sanctity. If by offering up her tendencies to impatience or anger, she was able to grow closer to God.   I would bet you that her journey in motherhood made her a saint.

I want to be a saint like St. Zelie too. While this sounds a little high and mighty, a saint is really just someone who has gone to heaven, someone who is fully in the presence of God. We have “canonized” saints in the Catholic church- these are people who have obviously followed God in their time alive and then have had two miracles proven in their name (plus a bunch of other logistical steps). We have a lot of them- a lot of men and women, like St. Zelie, to look to as an example of what it means to follow Jesus.  But, there are (I hope!) so many more saints than the ones that we have canonized, and I hope to be a part of this community someday.  

Motherhood will Make Me a Saint

Motherhood Will Make Me A Saint

I think motherhood is proving to be my quickest path to get there. The day in and day out of toddler tantrums, dirty diapers, and night wakings are doing their work in me. (And we’re not even to the teenage years yet!)  I believe God is using these little moments with my kiddos to draw me closer to Him, though I don’t always see it that way. It’s in the moments we see the face of Jesus in our children that we are being sanctified.

“He will answer them, ‘Amen, I say to you, what you did not do for one of these least ones, you did not do for me'” Matthew 25:45

I fail at this often.  I don’t always (or ever!) respond with the sweet patience that St. Zelie responded with to her little Therese.  Instead, I get frustrated and yell. I complain to my husband. I stop being present with my kiddos. I don’t treat every little toddler or baby suffering as an act for God. Every little task of motherhood seems so menial and not worth it, everything is always undone.

But, sometimes, I do respond with patience. I give that extra hug and snuggle instead of yelling.  I swallow my complaints and smile through it.  Sometimes, I work a little harder to be more present. Sometimes I remember to “offer it up,” to see Jesus in the face of my children. I embrace the “littleness” of motherhood as my journey to heaven.

And in these moments, I feel God smiling, saying “I see you. You’re doing a great job. Keep it up!” You see, God doesn’t need us to be perfect.  He simply wants us to be love to those around us- especially to those little beings that he’s entrusted us with. He wants us to try our best every day. Even more importantly, He wants us to call on Him in prayer when we’re not doing so hot. 

Prayer in Motherhood

It’s ironic because I am both drawn away from prayer and to prayer as a mother.  I often feel like I don’t have any pockets of time in my day to give to God. Or I don’t have a moment of silence in my day. I feel like I can’t do more than five minutes, so why even start? Or, like a couple days ago, I close my eyes to pray and immediately fall asleep. 

But at the same time, Jesus is calling to my heart. He asks me to spend that time- as little or “unproductive” as it may be. He calms my heart and shows me the next steps. Even in those days where all I get out are a morning offering– He blesses my day. He gives me the patience that I need. And even better, when I’m not the mom that I want to be that day, He takes me into His loving arms and reassures me that tomorrow is another day. I get the chance to rest and reset. 

Motherhood Will Make Me a Saint

Motherhood Will Make Me a Saint

Motherhood is strengthening me in all of the different virtues, ones I knew I needed help in and others I thought I had covered. I was made to be a mother, and, yet, I am challenged every day. This motherhood thing is pushing me to rely on God so much more than I ever thought I would need to.  As I’ve been praying the St. Therese of Lisieux Novena the past week, this litany of words from it has been convicting me, especially when I apply it in terms of motherhood. I hope that they’ll call on your heart too.  Join me in the journey to being a saint- whether motherhood is making you a saint, or something else, we’re all called to the journey. Pray for me, as I’ll pray for you.

I love your people, Lord. Help me to love them more!

I reflect you to the world, Lord. Help me to reflect you more clearly!

I rely on you, Lord. Help me to rely on you more!

I accept your will, Lord. Help me to accept your will every day!

I try to forgive, Lord. Help me to forgive 70 times 7 times!

I am humble, Lord. Give me more humility!

I see you, Lord. Help me to see you more!

I trust you, Lord. Help me to trust you more!

I love you, Lord. Help me to love you more!

 

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Mother Teresa on How Love Can Change the World

Thursday was St. Teresa of Calcutta’s feast day.  I meant to get this out then, but I got busy due to changed plans and visiting family!  Everyone loves Mother Teresa, so I figured I’d still share how I’ve been inspired by her lately. St Teresa of Calcutta was, and really still is, such an example of giving unlimited love, doing everything you can in the world, and listening to God’s plan. However, looking at her life can also be a little overwhelming- she was such a brave, devout, and busy woman. She gave and gave and gave and did soooo many great things.  But yet, the lessons that she taught those around her really focused on how her actions were really just a collection of small doings.  She shared how we too can love as she did. We don’t all have to go to the slums of Calcutta or even the slums of our own cities to make the world a better place. She said, instead, that we need to start at home, performing one act of love at a time.

Mother Teresa on How Love Can Change the World | Doing small things with great love to make the world a better place is what St. Teresa of Calcutta shared through her words and actions. #MotherTeresa #LoveFirst #ChristianMotherhood #ChangetheWorldthroughlove

“Spread love everywhere you go; first of all in your house. Give love to your children, to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbor. Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier.”

Sometimes I feel so overwhelmed with all of the ways that I could go out and help others. Our world can be a pretty dark and depressing place with so many people hurting, so many issues to fight on, and so much that could be done. It’s hard to keep up with the latest tragedy, to read the news right now without falling into despair or, worse, being so numb that we don’t feel anything anymore.  I’m someone who likes to be able to do something, and especially with two little people in tow right now, I feel like there’s just not much that I can legitimately go out and do. This has been really hard for me, and I often feel like I’m not doing my part to make the world a better place. 

But Mother Teresa had a different idea of how we can make the world a better place. She believed that we start with the people God put in front of us first. That means that I must start by loving my family, especially my kiddos and my husband, as best as I can.  In this, I am doing the work that God has called me to do. Mother Teresa often talked about the poverty of being uncared for, of feeling lonely and unloved. I’m sure we can all look around us and find at least one person in our life who is struggling with these feelings. By reaching out and doing what we can to make them feel loved and noticed, we are taking small steps in changing the world for the better.  Even this can seem hard at times, though, which brings us to another famous quote by Mama T.  

Mother Teresa on How Love Can Change the World | Doing small things with great love to make the world a better place is what St. Teresa of Calcutta shared through her words and actions. #MotherTeresa #LoveFirst #ChristianMotherhood #ChangetheWorldthroughlove

“I don’t do great things. I do small things with great love.”

I had this quote on my graduation cap- “do small things with great love” – and I try to live by it.  It truly is the small things that add up to the big things. Each small action I do in love for those around me adds to the culture of love in my life and in the lives of those around me.  In starting with my children, I’m able to build a foundation for them in which they know they are loved and can thrive. Each ouchie kissed, each book read, each extra snuggle adds up to the great love that they can flourish out of. The same goes for my husband. Every time I clean up dinner without complaining, recognize his needs before mine, or let him rant about his latest thing, I’m able to build up love in our marriage and in our home.  

The small things play out when we’re out and about too. I can choose to smile at the people in the grocery store aisles.  I can reach out and say hi to other moms at the library’s toddler time. I can look a homeless person in the eye when we pass them on the street. I can try to shop more ethically, buying items from places that treat their workers right. I can donate food or baby clothes or diapers or whatever else we have extra of.  There are so many small ways that we can make the lives of those around us better.  Just by recognizing the people in front of us using these small actions done with great love, we are able to make the world a better place.

Mother Teresa on How Love Can Change the World | Doing small things with great love to make the world a better place is what St. Teresa of Calcutta shared through her words and actions. #MotherTeresa #LoveFirst #ChristianMotherhood #ChangetheWorldthroughlove

“God doesn’t require us to succeed, he only requires that you try.”

This one is so so important. In attempting to be love to everyone around me, I burn myself out trying so hard to be the “perfect” parent, wife, neighbor, friend, daughter, etc. By taking baby steps and doing everything with love, Mother Teresa reminds me that it is really just the doing, the trying, that matters- I don’t need to do it all perfectly. At the same time, that doesn’t mean that we can become complacent because we “tried” and that’s what counts. It’s a new effort every day of loving the people God has put in front of us the best that we can. 

On my part, I am working on loving my children by being present with them and giving them my attention instead of getting sucked into things that don’t really matter.  Some days, I may yell and have no patience, some days they may hit their heads or get hurt too many times to count, and some days they may eat mac and cheese for every single meal. Yet, if I always come back and do my best to love them, that is truly what matters.  The same goes for my husband, other family members, friends, and even strangers.  Often, the “trying” is done in just being present with others, listening to them, and being the love that they need in their life.  We need to be open to whatever and whoever God is calling us to love and not be afraid to take the leap to love them even when it might feel a little uncomfortable or we don’t know if it’ll be received well.  We must try to do what we can to create change, even when we don’t know what the end result will be.

Mother Teresa on How Love Can Change the World | Doing small things with great love to make the world a better place is what St. Teresa of Calcutta shared through her words and actions. #MotherTeresa #LoveFirst #ChristianMotherhood #ChangetheWorldthroughlove

“I used to believe that prayer changes things, but now I know that prayer changes us, and we change things.”

One of my favorite stories of Mother Teresa is that of when one of the sisters in her convent approached her worrying that they didn’t have enough time to serve all of the people they needed to. Mother Teresa replied by saying that they must then increase their daily holy hour to two hours. For only through prayer would they be able to have the strength and peace to go out and do all of the work that is needed to be done.  Only through prayer do we realize that it is really God doing the work. By handing our work over to Him, He is able to multiply it, to make it more effective, and to create the world as it was meant to be.

I’m not currently able (or willing?) to have a daily holy hour not to mention two! In my stage of life, I’m happy when I get 20 minutes a day (especially if they’re in a row!) But even so, I know that when I do take that time with Jesus, I’m able to be a better mom, a better wife, and a better person in general.  I’m not sure how God does it, but He multiplies my time and keeps me present with my kids, husband, and others around me. Prayer also often challenges me to be a better person. It shows me areas I need to grow in, places where I haven’t been the kind of person God is calling to me. By giving whatever time that I’m able to give to him in my day, God multiplies it and changes me into a person who can then go out, love better, and create change in the world.

Mother Teresa knew what she was talking about, and she sure walked the walk. I aspire to be half as loving as she was, to be half as giving of myself as she was.  By following in Mother Teresa’s footsteps, as different as it may look in my life, I hope that I can become the person that I am meant to be.  I hope that I can spread love to those God has placed in my life through small actions rooted in love, and I pray that I am not held back from being love when I feel like I cannot succeed.  In doing all of these things, and in rooting myself in God through prayer, I know that I am doing my part to make this world a better place.  I hope that you’ll join me on the journey.

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John the Baptist- He Must Increase; I Must Decrease

John the Baptist- He Must Increase; I Must Decrease

Today is John the Baptist’s second feast day- the celebration of his death/martyrdom.  When I was planning this post, I was going to write about how we can “prepare the way of the Lord” just as John the Baptist did. But it wasn’t flowing. Part of this could be because I kept getting interrupted by a baby who insisted on waking up every 45 minutes until I finally realized he had a poopy diaper.  But, I think it was really because we don’t need to prepare the way anymore- Jesus has already come! He’s done His work, is doing His work.  Instead, we need to be in relationship. We need to put Jesus at the center of our lives and allow Him to do work within us so that we may find our calling. Then, we need to introduce him to others, so that they may find that relationship and calling too.

Who is John the Baptist?

John the Baptist was a somewhat strange figure in the Bible- he wandered the desert sharing his teachings, clothed himself in camel’s hair, and lived by eating locusts and honey.  He was bold with his words, calling out tax collectors for taking more than their share, soldiers for practicing extortion, and even the king for marrying his brother’s wife. Yet, despite his brusque attitude and wild demeanor, he gathered quite a following. He baptized these followers with water as a sign of their repentance and their turn to God. He then baptized Jesus, though he felt unworthy to even “loosen the thongs of his sandals” (Luke 3:16). 

Often we feel unworthy to do the work that God has called us to do, too. Who are we to bring people to Jesus, to make change in the world, or even to parent little humans? Nobody trained us for this.  But nobody trained John the Baptist either- he heard his call and followed it, setting the stage for the Savior of the World to come. This saying has been bringing me peace lately, “When God put a calling on your life, he already factored in your stupidity.”  God knows who we are intimately, and still calls us to do the things we are meant to do. John the Baptist- He Must Increase; I Must Decrease - what John the Baptist has to teach us about finding our purpose and living the life we're meant to live #Christianmotherhood #johnthebaptist #findyourcalling

Prayer Comes First

Since we aren’t trained for the calling, it helps to be in relationship with Jesus.  I find that when I’ve put aside my prayer time or fallen out of taking time for God, everything else also goes by the wayside. I become more overwhelmed in my everyday tasks. I don’t feel any clear directions as to what we should do next. There’s no peace. But after writing about my Martha heart and starting to put some of those practices into place, I’ve had so much more peace. I’ve been able to solo parent this week with little stress (other than the now incoming hurricane!). I’ve been able to be a better mom. I’ve felt more of where Jesus is calling us next. There’s been no clear signs or written down instructions by any means, but I’ve re-centered my life on Jesus and all of these things just seemed to follow.

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He Must Increase, I Must Decrease

When asked how he felt about Jesus also doing baptisms, John the Baptist said “he must increase; I must decrease” (John 3:30).  He knew that Jesus’ baptism was greater than the one that he offered. He knew that his preparations for the Lord were now complete and it was now time to turn hearts to the man who mattered the most. His actions were to point to Jesus. But, he wanted to be sure this was the right man, as most of us wonder at some time or another too. He sent some of his followers to ask Jesus if he was the Messiah or if they should keep looking. Jesus answered by healing them, taking away their demons, curing their diseases, and said “Go and tell John what you have seen and heard” (Luke 7:23a).  He let his actions speak for themselves.

We’re called to let our actions speak for themselves, or rather for Jesus, too. We must act as Christ acted, because He acted. This looks different for each of us. For me, I think a part of it is starting this blog and sharing my own journey so that others may come along. I think an even bigger portion of my calling includes being the best mother that I can be, bringing my children to Jesus and allowing Him to work in their lives. By centering my life on Jesus, I’m drawn into action. I need to become the best version of myself because that’s who I’m made to be. I, then, have the privilege of helping my children become the best versions of themselves. I also have this privilege with my husband and with all of the others that God has brought into my life. 

Let Jesus Work Through You

What I need to remember, though, is it is not my duty to change hearts as it was for John the Baptist. I can only lead by example, spread kindness and truth, and be the best that I can be. Because Jesus has come, I only need to introduce Him and let Him do the work in other’s lives- He must increase, I must decrease.  It is never my doing, but God working through me, fulfilling the purpose he has for me. This is a little disheartening, but also completely freeing. While I may not get all of the credit, I also don’t have to know exactly what I’m doing every second of the day.  Instead, I can ask Jesus to work his magic through me, and He will.

John the Baptist’s purpose was to prepare the way of the Lord. That’s literally what the angels told his father when he was put into his mother’s womb. He fulfilled his purpose, the way was made, Jesus has come. Now it’s our turn. Let’s build up our relationship with Jesus so that we may also discover our purpose. Let’s let Jesus do his work inside of us. Let’s introduce people to Jesus by our words and by our actions. Most importantly, we need to remember John the Baptist’s words, “He must increase; I must decrease.” 

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